Coming Out
If you’re here, then you’re hoping for some answers – you may be wondering whether you or someone you know is gay. Or, you may already know the answer, but have no idea what to do next. Please know that, as parents with gay children, we understand how truly earth-shaking this situation can feel right now. But, we’re here to let you know that someday, perhaps sooner than seems possible, life can be very normal again. It will be okay, even if the answer to your suspicion is “yes, my child is gay.” We invite you to read what’s on this page. The articles won’t speed you through the long process of acceptance, but they will give you a roadmap written by others who’ve been where you are now.
Articles
- Our Daughters and Sons: Questions and Answers for Parents of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual People (new window)
One of PFLAG's most popular publications, a "must read" for parents who are forming new and honest relationships with a loved one who has come out to them. This booklet answers several commonly-asked questions about having a gay child. It includes a list of related resources. - HRC's Straight Guide to GLBT Americans
Maybe you always suspected. Maybe it’s a total surprise. But no matter what, the moment a friend, loved one or acquaintance makes the decision to come out and tell you about being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, it is always a unique event. For a lot of people, learning that someone they know and care about is GLBT can open a range of emotions, from confused to concerned, awkward to honored. It may be hard to know how to react — leaving you with questions about what to say, how to talk about being GLBT and wanting to know what you can do to be supportive. Read more - Be Yourself: Questions and Answers for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth (new window)
This PFLAG publication offers a supportive approach to common questions asked by teens who may be questioning their sexual orientation. It also provides hotline numbers for teens and a list of resources. - Gay & Lesbian Adolescents
Growing up is a demanding and challenging task for every adolescent. One important aspect is forming one's sexual identity. All children explore and experiment sexually as part of normal development. This sexual behavior may be with members of the same or opposite sex. Read more - Transgender (new window)
This PFLAG publication is an introduction to trans issues and is a good resource for parents of “children” of all ages. Contents include commonly asked questions, commonalities and differences between sexual orientation and gender identity, issues of transgendered youth, and transgender and the law. This is an excellent educational tool for families, friends, employers, and the larger community. Read more - Faith in Our Families: Parents, Families and Friends Talk About Religion and Homosexuality (new window)
Discovering that a loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered can pose new questions about your faith and may prompt you to re-evaluate beliefs that you previously took for granted. By using personal experiences, this PFLAG publication provides examples for reconciling your faith with the knowledge that a loved one is gay. includes an updated list of gay and lesbian religious and spiritual groups to watch out for.
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